Imagine how much time we would all save if we stopped giving two f*cks what other people thought about us. Think about those bold red heels that you’ve been wanting to wear but sit in your closet untouched because you’re worried your coworkers will think you’re in “The Wizard of Oz.” Or what about that dance cardio class you want to take but don’t because you’re convinced people will judge your moves. And what about that business you have been dreaming of starting your whole life but don’t because people tell you that it’s more “stable” to keep the boring 9-5 job that you hate.
I think it’s long past time for us to stop caring what people think and live our lives unapologetically in the way that we truly want to. Now, I know you’re thinking that this is easier said than done and you are absolutely right. I would be lying if I said that I haven’t changed outfits before heading out my door in fear of what people would think. But we’ve been through too much this past year to waste our precious time and energy on other people anymore. Life is short and more fun when we’re living it the way we want to.
As women, we’re more prone to imposter syndrome, or that annoying little voice in our head that tells us that we’re not good enough, or that people are judging us. Forbes even found that 75% of executive women (that’s right, women who have “made it” to the top levels in their industries) reported having imposter syndrome at some point in their lives. Imagine how much time we would save and how much badassery we would accomplish if we instead invested that time in remembering how amazing we are and going after what we want.
Here are 3 ways that I recommend you start reminding yourself that you can do whatever you want and other people’s opinions don’t determine your potential:
1. Start every day journaling and writing down a daily affirmation that reminds you how great you are and how you shouldn’t worry about what other people think. Some ideas:
- I can accomplish anything I put my mind to
- I don’t care what my in-laws say I know I am a great parent
- This week will be my best week ever
- I am strong and I am worthy of greatness
2. Don’t block out the constructive criticism from those who truly want the best for you, but kick those toxic voices to the curb. You have no room for negativity in your life and neither does your business.
3. Begin with small things you’re afraid of doing and then build up to the bigger things that you feel you have been held back in accomplishing. Maybe first you wear those red heels without worrying about what the people around you think, then work your way up to large goals like creating a company or quitting your boring job.
There’s no need to wait any longer because you’re giving a f*ck about what other people think of you. People’s comments and criticism come from their own insecurities and we don’t have time for that B.S.